Monday, July 26, 2010

day 1 ~ meeting His strength in my weakness

well girls...monday tried to kick my butt several times over the past 12 hours {toddler mega-meltdowns, 100 degree heat while running errands, diaper blow-out...i won't bore you with the other grueling details} but i fought hard and won the battle.  yes, there is a tutu and a dozen other random items laying on my family room floor.  and, yes, there are dishes and clothes stacked and yet to be put away.  and, yes, my floor {which my kids routinely eat off of} is filthy, but...i got 3 loads of laundry done, served 3 balanced meals, had fun with my kids, and kept my cool all day long.  the good news is my daily dare was fulfilled.  the bad news is i don't have much left in the reserve tank to write an incredibly thoughtful post.  but...here goes...a few observations to kick off our 40 day challenge!


(1)  :: strength in numbers ::   
there are several of us {myself included} who have attempted the love dare in the past and fallen short.  i am committed this time but just in case my commitment might start to wane i asked you gals to jump on the train with me because i could flake out and cause my own train wreck but i wouldn't dare get this thing off track knowing that the rest of you are precious passengers!  your accountability is invaluable to me...thank you sisters!


(2)  :: a habit ::  
here's one of the main reasons i am totally committed to seeing this thing ALL the way through...i want to form a habit.  there is gobs of research out there on forming habits and from what i've read folks believe it takes anywhere from 21 to 66 days for something to really become ingrained...i figure 40 is a darn good start.  the habit i want to form?  ~loving well~  the focus of this particular journey is our husbands but my hope is that in learning to love my husband well i will also begin loving my children, my parents, my friends {and even that annoying driver that just cut me off} well, too.


(3)  :: hitting me where it hurts ::  
day one...patience...seriously???  couldn't we just ease into this thing???  when i began to read today's entry i almost closed my book, waved the white flag, threw in the towel...  there is something you should know about me - on most days i am a ticking time bomb.  my impatient (and anything but 'gentle') flesh has gotten the best of me so many times and is one of the greatest battles that my heart faces on a daily basis.  at first i was overwhelmed to face this facet of love for my first challenge but quickly my fear turned to gratitude and hope.  for me, personally, there really couldn't be a better place to start.  if there is anything that i need a FULL 40 days to practice it is patience.  and if there is going to be any major breakthrough in my ability to love it must start with patience.  and anyways...God reminded me yesterday, before i even cracked this book, that He would provide me with the strength i would need to face this challenge and all the other ones that come my way.  this is where he led me...


from isaiah 40 ~He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak...those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.


OK girls...here we go...praying daily that each of you would embrace His strength in your weakness as we face this worthy challenge of loving well...


let me hear from you...





4 comments:

  1. this is why i love you girl! you write so beautifully and seem to take my thoughts exactly and put them on paper {blog}. i too felt like i should just cash right in after i read about 2 paragraphs....i struggle with patience in many aspects in my life and my poor husband often takes the brunt of it. but really what good does it do to get angry? to constantly find fault? i fought "the urge" all day, but won :) looking forward to day #2!

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  2. Hello Ladies! Love your write-up Elizabeth! Ok...I can hardly say that I was successful today with this one....had minimal interaction with hubby today. Just returned from being on vacation and had 150+ emails to go through. After work had to run errands to Costco and then Wally World. It's now my time for reflection. I have taken tons of leadership assessments and guess which one is my shortcoming....patience! I'm totally a type A ...get it done...impatient person...so todays reading spoke to me loud and clear. My big take away is that patience is a choice. So...I choose to be patient and by choosing to be patient I not only connect better with hubby...but I also honor God. Ok...much easier said than done! :)

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  3. Wow can't top 150 work emails---UGG! That is a tough day to start with a lesson in patience. Good job!

    I don't usually blow up but my impatience is there brewing under the surface. So learning to really be patient and not just mask it was/is my challenge.
    My Home Chalkboard Now Reads:
    Wisdom + Love= Patience.

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  4. Megan - I love your Chalkboard message! Good idea...prompts me to put some friendly reminders around my home. :)
    So, I read Dare #2 today. Urgh....not an easy one for me either! Yet, God is speaking to me. I loved the saying "patience avoids a problem and kindness creates a blessing". Words of wisdom! I do struggle w/ (pg. 7), "kindness graces a wife w/ the ability to serve her husband w/o worying about her rights". I know where this is coming from...but, I guess selfishness can take over and the word "serve" hits me the wrong way. Also a good reminder...kindness greets first, smiles first, serves first and forgives first...when acting out of kindness, you see the need and make the move, first. So very true...but, then why is this so very difficult? Ladies - your thoughts?

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